The Space Between Yes and No: Learning to Honour the Pause
There’s a quiet moment that often goes unnoticed.
It's the space where we gather our thoughts, feel our emotions, and listen to our inner voice.
A pause so small we barely register it.
It lives in the breath between question and answer.
In a glance away, when someone asks for something we’re not sure we can give.
In the tightening chest, the inner lean forward… and the slow retreat.
That space — the one between yes and no — is sacred.
It’s not indecision. It’s not avoidance.
It’s listening.
It’s where your body speaks before your voice does.
Where intuition whispers just loud enough for you to notice.
It’s where you feel the pull of people-pleasing — and the deeper tug toward truth.
And it matters.
That space is where you remember:
You are not a machine of agreement.
You are a living, feeling, choosing human being.
And choice takes time.
Yes, deserves to be wholehearted.
No deserves to be honoured.
And anything in between? Deserves breath.
Closing Reflection
So, if you find yourself hesitating,
If your yes catches in your throat
Or your ‘no’ enters with a shudder —
Know this:
You’re in the space between.
And that space is not empty.
It’s where your knowing gathers.
You are allowed to pause.
You are allowed to wait.
You are allowed to listen —
and choose with care.
